The Miscarriage Doula came to live in 2020 when we were fresh into a global pandemic and I had just given birth to my “double rainbow” baby after two miscarriages and infertility. I thought it doesn’t have to be this hard and knew that I wanted to do something on a bigger scale to change how people are given support after miscarriage, through trying to conceive, and eventually, pregnancy after loss. I struggled with postpartum depression and a large part of that was that I struggled to understand how I was still sad over a child (two children, really) that I lost but loving the one in my arms so much that it physically hurt. I couldn’t comprehend how both things could be true. And in that moment, I wished that I had spent time working with someone who could prepare me for this feeling and maybe even supported me along the way so I wasn’t so alone.

I had become a Birth + Bereavement Doula through Sisters in Loss and one morning, while drinking my coffee and sitting on the couch, the entire idea came to me and I knew that I didn’t just want to be a doula — I wanted to be a miscarriage doula. I wanted to change any small amount of the world and this was my way to do it.